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In order for Change to occur Consistency needs to be present…simple right?

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There are so many inspirational quotes at present referring to personal growth, desiring a change and habit forming. The majority states that the key to perform this “change” is through consistency. On the face of it that is simple right? Just keep doing what you need to do and the change your’re seeking will materialise. No one actually states how difficult it is to be consistent when it is against your natural being.

So for example how easy is it to be consistent to go to the gym to bring the change of desired body. How many excuses do you tell yourself or lack that motivation? Have a few good weeks then just stop? Want the desired body but actually do not like exercising.

How easy is it to be consistent to enforce that consequence with your child when they appear to have “learned their lesson” or appears to be remorseful?

How easy is to stick to that routine when in fact all you want to do is relax?

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How easy is it to be consistent when you are a laid back person? Being consistent takes up a lot of energy that is not spoken within all inspirational quotes. I have not deciphered at this present moment in time whether this is positive energy or negative energy however in my opinion it is exhausting nonetheless.

Kenneth Blanchard appears to provide some depth to the concept of consistency implying that the true route to change is commitment to the desire. In my opinion in order to be committed the concept of energy and time proposed to give to desires change still needs to be analysed.

Therefore if you want to make that change the first question that should be asked is how much do I actually want this? Is this an actual goal or is this what society tells me I should do? How much energy am I able to put into this change? Maybe designated time should be given to changing one behaviour at a time rather than trying to change the world (inner self) all at once. Even God (if Christian and believe) rested on day 7.

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Beyond the fear

So I am late in watching The Dark Knight Rises. Brilliant film.

What came up for me by watching this film was the meaning of fear. What behaviours and thought processes develop because of these fears? How is our fears conquered?

There is a part of the film (anyone who hasn’t seen it and doesn’t want to hear anything about it stop reading now) where a child is trapped in an underground jail and was the only person able to escape by climbing out. Many after tried but failed.

Many individuals tried to escape by wrapping a rope around their waist as a means of providing safety in case they fall. Bruce Wayne attempted this technique until it was suggested to try it like the child – without the rope

Bruce, (like most of us if we were in the same situation) believed by knowing and acknowledging the fear – dying in  the cave – would be enough motivation to find the strength to get out however the film demonstrated that It actually takes more than acceptance and acknowledgement.

That rope symbolised a safety net, a plan B. A safety net which holds us back and keeps us in that place of fear. When we have a rope (safety net) we do not have to really let go. The idea of having truly nothing left to lose is a powerful concept. This reminds me of the film Pursuit to Happiness starring Will Smith and his struggles/fears. When you are truly down and out with really nothing left to lose this feeling can be a positive factor to encourage that motivational drive.

How many of us is truly capable of fully letting go? How many of us is capable of taking that risk and not having a safety net? What could we actually achieve if we didn’t?